Drunk Mom: A Memoir

  • Title: Drunk Mom: A Memoir
  • Author: Jowita Bydlowska
  • ISBN: 9780143126508
  • Page: 369
  • Format: Paperback
  • Drunk Mom A Memoir An intense complex and disturbing story bravely and beautifully told I read Drunk Mom with my jaw on the floor which doesn t happen to me that often Lena Dunham Three years after giving up drinking
    An intense, complex and disturbing story, bravely and beautifully told I read Drunk Mom with my jaw on the floor, which doesn t happen to me that often Lena Dunham Three years after giving up drinking, Jowita Bydlowska found herself throwing back a glass of champagne like it was ginger ale It was a special occasion a party celebrating the birth of her first child An intense, complex and disturbing story, bravely and beautifully told I read Drunk Mom with my jaw on the floor, which doesn t happen to me that often Lena Dunham Three years after giving up drinking, Jowita Bydlowska found herself throwing back a glass of champagne like it was ginger ale It was a special occasion a party celebrating the birth of her first child It also marked Bydlowska s immediate, full blown return to crippling alcoholism.In the gritty and sometimes grimly comic tradition of the bestselling memoirs Lit by Mary Karr and Smashed by Koren Zailckas, Drunk Mom is Bydlowska s account of the ways substance abuse took control of her life the binges and blackouts, the humiliations, the extraordinary risk taking as well as her fight toward recovery as a young mother This courageous memoir brilliantly shines a light on the twisted logic of an addicted mind and the powerful, transformative love of one s child Ultimately it gives hope, especially to those struggling in the same way.

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    About Jowita Bydlowska


    1. I was born in Warsaw, Poland I moved to Canada as a teenager Currently, I live in Toronto I wrote a bestselling memoir called Drunk Mom published by Doubleday Canada and HarperCollins Australia 2013 Penguin USA 2014 The book is also self published in the U.K I ve sold movie and TV rights do Drunk Mom to LD Entertainment in 2013.My novel GUY Buckrider Books came out in October, 2016 and people liked it.I also published a bunch of short stories For fun, I hang out with my kid, talk to Naomi, read, ride my bike, make music mixes, wander around, and take pictures.As a journalist, I mainly write about culture, social issues and mental health I ve been published in the National Post, the Globe and Mail, Salon magazine, The Times UK, Elle, FASHION, Chatelaine, Hazlitt, THIS magazine, etc I write an occasional column for the cbc on the topic of mental health I m a frequent contributor to The Fix magazine I ve never been published by VICE except when I trolled them twice back in my 20s I m funnier in person.


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    1. Tricky one, this. When I first heard the buzz about this book, I assumed it was being written by a woman in, say, her late 40s, looking back on her life at a time when alcoholism and motherhood collided, and written with hindsight, reflection and a pretty clear indication of the kind of effect her actions had on her child(ren). So I was surprised to learn that it was actually written by Jowita Bydlowska, a Toronto writer younger than me, with barely two years of motherhood and one year of sobrie [...]

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    2. Oh, in case you’re wondering: I’m not a cocaine addict.I prefer to drink.You found me in the middle of my story and I happened to have just found a baggie of cocaine in that bathroom.But honestly, I prefer drinking.I prefer drinking to anything in the world: sex, food, sleep. My child, my lover, anything.I love to drink. Sometimes I think: No, I am drink.It’s like my blood. Even before I get it, I can feel it in my veins. I’m not being poetic—I can actually feel it in my veins.It’s g [...]

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    3. Profoundly disturbing portrait of real addiction. Pay no attention to reviewers who say "I liked the book but I didn't like her." By that metric, people wouldn't listen to Van Morrison or watch Russell Crowe act.There were moments in the first half of the book where I had to look away for a bit: just too claustrophobic. But, can we fault the writer for doing her job and describing something in a way that makes us appreciate the horror on a visceral level? I don't think so.I wish her luck and a t [...]

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    4. The writing deserves 3 stars, but the author as a human being barely deserves 1 star. The story is sad and vividly told. But I was actually disappointed in myself for reading it. She is so narcissistic, self-indulgent and pretentiousd I think these traits would apply even sans her addiction issues. I wanted to focus on the writing but I could not look beyond how much I dislike her.

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    5. wow. and, man! i stayed up way, way too late last night because i couldn't stop reading this book. it's a tough read at times - which, given the title one must expect, really. but the thing bydlowska does amazingly well is convey the mindset of an addicted/alcoholic person: the frantic, the chaotic, the scheming, the blacked-out, the re-framing. the behaviours she uses in planning to buy her alcohol, drinking her booze, dealing with the empty bottles, lying to her boyfriend, endangering her baby [...]

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    6. Jowita B. can write, no doubt about it. But man, do I ever have some moral and ethical issues letting someone who so blatantly endangered her child profit off of that endangerment. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone, etc etc but I guess as someone who wants to be a mother so very, very badly, reading this made me so angry at the world, at the author, at her enabling boyfriend (who throws their significant other a party the day before she leaves for rehab?!) I felt wronged reading thi [...]

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    7. I love reading addiction memoirs. They can be incredibly rewarding, and I have read some amazing ones by people like Sarah Hepola, Kirsten Johnson, and Carolyn Knapp. This is not one of those books. What this is, is someone profiting off of child abuse. You know that thing, where people get drunk and then breast feed their infant? Yeah that's child abuse. You know that thing, where people get blackout drunk and pass out on the floor while being the only person home with the baby? Yeah that's chi [...]

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    8. Last week, when I received an advanced copy of “Drunk Mom” I was a giddy kid on Christmas morning and, at the same time, antsy-pantsy like on a first date. I resisted reading Jowita Bydlowska’s memoir at first, because I knew the moment I crack it open, the first chapter wouldn’t be enough. Or the second, or the third. I’d have to cancel my plans—eschew a looming project proposal deadline and forego homework—shut myself in, read the whole thing straight through, ignoring all respon [...]

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    9. OK, some information before I get to the review:I know Jowita. Not well, we aren't super-close. But she wrote for me when I edited a magazine a few years ago, and she and I are FB friends. We follow each others blogs. I am an alcoholic, and although I've been sober for just over 9 years, I well remember those dark days. I am also a Mom, though I've never been a drunk one - I stopped drinking about 2 years before my first son was born. And so I read Jowita's book as a friend, as a writer, as an a [...]

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    10. What I didn't like- her writing style. I know it was meant to reflect the state of her mind, it was slightly off putting. Also, the grammar/spelling whore that I am, I tend to always notice mistakes immediately. There were a lot. I wish someone would have taken a few extra read throughs before publishing. What I did like- Jowita was a woman I could easily relate to, and I don't drink! She was a new mom who had no clue what she was doing when she became a mom. I felt that way. I still feel that w [...]

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    11. I have NEVER finished a "one star" book before. I remember only two books I've even read partially that I'd give a one star to, & that was "Naked Lunch"/Wm. Burroughs, and something by Jean Genet. One star is not merely "dull & amateurish", but oozes evil. I shudder to think that the events in this book actually took place. I think dear Jowita should be incarcerated in some severely strict addiction facility for a long stretch & have no access to that baby for as long as true recover [...]

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    12. I wasn't sure about this book when I picked it up. The conversation about memoirs moving into TMI territory had affected me and I think my prejudgement verged on cynicism. Even the first chapter - snorting a random score of cocaine, found in the bathroom of the R.O.M I mean, come on! - made me sort-of sour my face up. "Appalled" was the word that went through my mind. But she won me over. Very simply put: she told her story. She told it honestly and without flinching. At times, she was self-depr [...]

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    13. A quote from the book "A popular adage going around the rooms of Alcoholic Anonymous was Albert Einstein's "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results." Motherhood is a type of insanity, my friend Mary said once. It is not insanity as defined by Einstein because doing the same thing over and over yields different results eventually. The insanity of motherhood lies in perseveration. You can be all like: "I'm going to count to three!" but there's always three a [...]

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    14. I've never been one for addiction memoirs, but Jowita Bydlowska's story is so much more than that. This memoir reads like a novel, with incredibly vivid scenes that I feel will forever be etched in my mind. Bydlowska is an incredibly talented and brave writer, and I'm so glad that she shared her story in this way. A powerful read.

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    15. This book was riveting. It was fascinating to see through the eyes of an addict and see the exact thought process. This book was at times very funny and also heart wrenching. Definitely glad I came across it at the bookstore!

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    16. Couldn't put it down. It made me want to drink. It made me feel guilty for wanting to drink. It made me consider going to rehab. It made me feel human; ever yearning and vulnerable.

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    17. Really good, once you get into her rhythm, but absolutely the wrong thing to read in a bar.

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    18. Actual rating = 3.5There are a few things wrong with this book - First, I know the book is called Drunk MOM, so the focus is on the year after her son is born when she relapses, but it would have been nice to have had more of a backstory as to who Jowita is and how she has found herself in the position she was in 2009-2010. She says many time that this story is "not the TV show Intervention", but what makes that show so compelling is that you are with the addict in present time but also get a (r [...]

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    19. Why is Jowita Bydlowska's book such a compulsive and compelling read, one that's hard to put down? I think it's because there are absolutely no distractions, no descriptions, not much background information, no lengthy explanations (except for a brief Archeology chapter) no theory, no psychology and no advice. It's like she says - "this is no self help book". The author sticks to raw facts and with tremendous focus and gripping immediacy, takes us through the several months of a life of a drunk, [...]

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    20. As far as addiction memoirs go, this one is definitely one of the better out there, despite being one of the more difficult to read. This is because the author is a new mother. After having been sober for years, she toasts to the birth of her new son with champagne. And after that, all her hard work goes down the tube. Like "Alcohol: a Love Story," you keep waiting for rock bottom to be a huge accident. A DUI, an arrest, a death. Because the author's drinking takes her just to the edge of that l [...]

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    21. This was tough to read. Bydlowska is brutal, open, and honest in her narrative. She lays it ALL out there—all of it: her strong desire—passion, rather—to drink; trying to maintain her sex appeal despite lactating; the lack of connectivity and feeling during intimacy. It’s all there. Bold and exposed.Despite it all, Bydlowska demonstrates her strongness in her motherhood. She recognizes the dangers; she plans around her blackouts; pumps when she knows her milk may be poison. Her joy for m [...]

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    22. *Received this as an advance reading giveaway.*To be honest, I was leery of this book. The cover didn't really do it for me, and I assumed that the writing was going to bad. Well, surprise, surprise, I ended up getting sucked into this memoir, reading voraciously and delaying chores so that I could finish it.This is a raw, honest glimpse into the mind of an alcoholic. She describes how it feels to need alcohol and the way that it feels as it enters her body. She goes into detail about how she pl [...]

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    23. Just finished reading this very well written book. I found it hard to put down, and a very real account of how the writer struggled with her addiction. Most of us, I believe, know someone with some kind of addiction, and we strive to understand how it holds on tight and doesn't let go. How can a person who loves someone hurt them at the same time? When you have what appears to be a great life, why would you seem to throw it away for a drink, a drug, something that threatens that "great life"? Ap [...]

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    24. Drunk Mom is the best book I've read all year. Jowita Bydlowska weaves together the psychological ramifications of the immigrant experience, dysfunctional upbringing, stay-at-home motherhood, post-pardum depression, and sexual objectification for a gripping tale of her own addicted pathology.Bydlowska is tops when demonstrating defensive projection. She deftly describes her reactions to those around her asking her to get help. She violently accuses her family and friends of extremism or close mi [...]

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    25. I knew that addicts had a very hard time giving up whatever they were addicted to but I didn't realize how hard it was until I read this book. This is a memoir of a young woman who got caught up in alcoholism and the trials she had trying to get back to normal. She had a young child and had been an addict before but had given alcohol up until that one day and it consumed her life again. She risked everything just to keep on drinking. For a whole year she was in and out of AA and rehab but nothin [...]

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    26. I picked this book up because I was in the mood for something real and gritty. And oh, my, gawd, is this really gritty. The author's 11 month relapse into alcoholism is more real than you can imagine. Very direct prose about what it's like to not be in control of your life. From hiding beer in the baby stroller for the morning walk (to cure a hangover) to downing a 1/2 pint of vodka before dinner, to not remembering how she got so sore and scraped up, to not remembering worse than that-and not w [...]

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    27. Drunk Mom is an honest and genuine memoir about alcoholism and how easy it is to go from sober to a stumbling drunk. It doesn't try to justify the behavior that being drunk entails, but it does give reasons as to why it happens in the first place, how addicts of alcohol can get help and how things can turn around.

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    28. To be honest as a new mom myself I just found this book too painful to get through. Wow. I'm really praying for people who struggle with addictions but really, at this point when my son is 5 months old, I need something more upbeat.

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    29. Oh, this was painful to read. I was married to an alcoholic before I met Rick and it was nothing as bad as this. Blackouts, mapping out where all the liquor stores were, hiding it -- gracious. It just hurt my heart. Oddly enough, it's very readable and I kept cheering her on.

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    30. "This is a story of an addiction but also of parenthood, which is in itself a major mind game for which no one is really prepared." Of the "addiction memoir" genre, this is possibly my new favorite.

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